These were my favorite jeans. I threw them in the laundry room. My wife didn't take the pen out of the pocket when she did the wash. She said I should have done that. When I showed my wife this headline, she said, "I can't wait to hear what people say. They're going to be shocked that your workhorse money-making wife is also expected to do the laundry."
She's clearly right. Cleaning your pockets – your responsibility.
Your wife is mixing apples and oranges. (1) Anyone doing the laundry — anyone — should check the pockets before putting anything in the machine. That’s how my aunt found out my uncle had a second family for 20 years. She found a letter “To Dad” from one of the progeny of that deception. (2) Good gig if you can get it, Phil. In my experience, women will wash your shorts if they’re getting laid a lot. Maybe you were in Gaza too long.
Be a man. Do your own laundry.
While it's true a responsible laundry-doer should systematically check the pockets of anything going in the washing machine, you should always remove everything from the pockets before throwing it in the hamper. Especially pens. ESPECIALLY pens in your favorite jeans. You're both at fault.
Go buy another pair of jeans and shut up. You made a mistake by leaving a pen in your pocket and it's your wife's fault. Typical attitude of "progressives" towards woman.
Sans prior agreement, unless you are a pre-teen, I'd say that's your job, Phil. BTW how are the rest of the chores divided up? Who, for example, actually sorts out and pays the bills? Who does the shopping? The cooking? The dish & pot cleaning? The house cleaning? The yardwork? The car maintenance? There's related or sub-chores in all of those items too. Who does the tax work? Even if you have that done, who collects and stores the receipts, any needed tax records to support the annual IRS return? And imagine, if you two had a baby, or a young kid or two? Who'd take care of the precious one(s)? In the old days, the wife did as she had more flexible time in that she was usually a full-time housewife. Now, I asked my sister the same question: It was his job. Further, she said even a pre-teen should be educated to clean out their dirty laundry if it's to be washed by whomever. Her reasoning: Since he tossed the precious jeans into the laundry room, he should have made sure the pockets were empty. If she came around and took his clothes off, say, the back of a chair or whatever, rather than only from the laundry room or an alternate designated pickup spot elsewhere, then she would be negligent, the culpable actor.
Who is right? Both obviously. That's why you ask. Favorite Jeans? Ballpoint pen? (my favorite pens) Here is something practical. Doesn't look too difficult. http://dbs.extension.iastate.edu/answers/projects... And as suggested above. Do it yourself.
Why not hit up your loyal readers for some money? Yep, I'm with your wife–you're a lazy hypocritical piece of shit.
Philip, you are sounding like a spoiled little boy. Throwing you favorite jeans? How about taking care of your own things, laundry included. Live with the pen stain and start doing your own wash. Unfortunately that will result in stains on most of your clothes. You could create a new signature look,
Your most disappointing post yet, Phil. (In fact, just about the only one.) Though I suppose you could also say it was 'engagingly honest.' Aren't you even ashamed to publicize the facts that (a) your wife seems to routinely do the laundry, (b) you don't even have enough basic life-skills training to check the pockets of your own clothes before you toss them in the laundry room, (c) you even have 'a laundry room', and (d) when the mishap occurred you could even raise the question that it might not have been your fault? 'Progressive' men and their attitudes towards women… Don't get me started! The most depressing thing? For all of my adult life (i.e. since around 1970), we women have been battling sexism in SO MANY areas of our lives. But oh my gosh, how little progress we have made.
Sorry, Phil. Your wife is right.
your wife works full time and she is doing the laundry too!!! do you have a 9-5 work schedule phil? does she always do the laundry? man, you're a blogger with a flexible schedule. you not only should be doing the laundry but also have dinner ready for her when she comes home. maybe this incident shows your wife's unconscious way of protesting like, you know, a cat pissing on the carpet, when the owner leaves for extended periods. ps: i'm a guy.
Phil, you are a PEW (Progressive except for Women). You sound like a spoilt, sulky, childish teenager. Do your own laundry, plus half of all the other housework, or chip in for an adequate number of hours of a housekeeping service. (Or take the whole lot to your Mummy at the weekends – she could check your ears and fingernails while you are there). You can tell your wife that sense of humour, tolerance and patience are virtues I appreciate most in people.
So you have a workhorse and a hobbyhorse. Phil, are there any other horses we should know about?
I think any way you look at it, Phil is wrong here. I think the underlying theme is: Phil's wife works a regular job, like Chicken Little, but both she and Phil think Phil's more flexible and less consistently paying job is the higher calling. OK. Does this (I assume) agreement, allow Phil to whine about his precious jeans? I don' think so. To me, it's pretty obvious that his wife thinks Phil is a superior being. She needs some self-esteem help. She should look into what the WASP thinking has done over the USA decades, and compare what the Jew thinking has done. Perhaps she will see that the WASPS have done more than the Jews in the USA in terms of being humanitarians? My G-D, she might actually start really looking into the history of anti-semitism–and find out that much of it was a reaction to some pretty terrible things engendered by Jewish activity, not merely the goy rulers seeking to get out from under debt owed to Jews.
I don't have an opinion about who is right. I think it depends on how you guys have your household chores divvied up. My input is to tell you that I recently did the same thing to some of my husband's clothes (some of my favorites – sigh), and I will be using denatured alcohol to try to undo the damage (wearing a respirator, of course). Acetone is supposed to work also. Just don't scrub the ink stains, if you do this. Blot, instead. (I would also point out that your jeans seem to have a bit of a "Shroud of Turin" thing going on there. Maybe it's time to get some new jeans anyway.)
I think your wife is right, Phil. And I'm a guy as well.
RE: Who is right? MY SUGGESTION: Submit it for arbitration.
Talk about airing your dirty laundry in public! :) House rules when I was a kid was empty your pockets before putting stuff in the wash, although I usually did the wash to help my mom as my brothers and sister were too lazy.
Or you could follow Judge Wapner's advice and sue your wife in small claims court.
At least you did not contribute to the killing of Israeli women and children with your whining, this time.
The pen is mightier than the detergent.
We're in the same boat here. My husband threw his favorite "hand-wash only" shirts down the laundry chute and just this morning, was whinning about how I had shrunk them to child extra-small. No appreciation for my doing everyone's laundry for the past 20+ years (plus bringing home the bacon!) It just goes to prove that when you "give a man an inch, he thinks he's a ruler!"
Shit happens
:-)
Phil, anyway you look at is, you are a spoiled brat and don't deserve the leeway your shiksa has given you. I'd conclude that your wife has low self-esteem and it's not warranted.
You are right only as far as considering those jeans your favorite!! These are some really nice jeans!!!! As for the washing.. you are wrong.. before putting anything in the laundry you should check its pockets… whoever does the laundry cannot be expected to check all the pockets of all the clothes before washing them, except maybe if they are getting paid to do it…
Unquestionably Phil's responsibility to place only laundry-ready articles in the hamper. I got this straight from God, so there's no more discusion on this. But what's with all the "ooh, look at what a porcine hypocrite we have in weiss, who chains his passive and deluded spouse to the Maytag"? The evidence? His wife washed the load that contained the offending pen. So? I do washes, my wife does washes (in our house, only my daughter doesn't do washes). Why assume that, because in this instance Lady Weiss did the wash, she always does? She should never do a wash if Weiss is truly a New Man? After much painful tutelage, I feel as devoted to gender equality as the next…person, but these cumbaya types who can't wait to show the purity of their hearts give me a pain. He fucked up, but there's no evidence that he's Bluebeard.
Leaving the pen in the pocket must have been an expression of self-contempt?
His wife states that she is expected to do the laundry.
She said, "They're going to be shocked that your work-horse, money-making wife is expected to do the laundry". Does this mean that all laundry is expected to be her responsibility, or that she should be excused from housework due to her participation in the workforce? If the former, then I retract my former defense of weiss and condemn him an eternity of watching Lifetime movies. If the latter, I am no more convinced than I am by men who feel the paycheck exempts them from domestic duties. Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to fix dinner for the wife, kid and kid's boyfriend.
Break the cycle: get the kid's boyfriend to help you cook……….
Phil, You need to do your own laundry. Period. You should be doing your own laundry even if you were also working a 9-5 job.
It's my experience that most women can't cook or do laundry right, so I do both myself. Why waste money on food that's inedible or on clothing that's bound to be ruined? And you can't whine about clothing that you let someone else wash–especially when you leave a pen in the pocket.
For God's sake Phil, grow up and get yourself a pair of Pro Rodeo Cowboy Cut® Wranglers!
Good afternoon Gents. My tailor on Savile Row noticed something most fascinating. How deep are your pockets, Phil? Please take a measurement. I suspect that some nefarious trickster may be trying to foment marital discord amongst yourself, the missus and perhaps even the Mondoweiss community. I hate to rush, but I dare not be late for afternoon tea!
Did the pen in your jeans ruin any of your wife's clothes? If so, ho did she handle it?
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