I see there is lots of warmth to spread around here ;~)
I will make three comments:
1) Though you may have already gathered this from my other responses, I only gave up an attempt to gain a foundation that was tribal/national/etc. through a process that was painful and uncomfortable. And all I really know, is that it seemed necessary for me to let go of those identifications as foundations in order to gain a deeper freedom to create and connect. But I would never, ever condemn someone for having a foundation in a group or identity, though without excusing behavior that hurts others. If it works for them and it does no harm, fantastic. From the evidence I have seen, there are many people in the world for which this works very well. (In fact, I would feel much poorer if all such people were forced to forget the richness of their background, their identifications, though that doesn’t extend to condoning damage done in the name of cultural integrity/preservation.)
2) Now I am really stepping into it, but here goes. When I look at Israel (or Canada or the US) and I consider the damage each has done, I feel anger at the injustices. As I said in my article, there were times I had to stop reading for extended periods of time due to the huge stress it caused. On the other hand, when I look at the demonic treatment of the Jewish diaspora throughout history, how could I not want that to end? I end up with the impossible situation of yes and no, simultaneously. While I believe that there were options other that the formation of Israel, that is not what happened. That is not the reality we have to deal with. When I think of Israelis and Palestinians as friends, as brothers and sisters, and ask myself how would I want my brothers and sisters to be treated, how would I want to be treated — and that extends to those who have responded to real or perceived hurts with violence — the answer is clear. It is, “with as much dignity and respect and understanding as possible”. Whatever else is true, I can’t imagine that anyone looking at the current situation from that point of view would say we are doing well.
Preface for the last comment: the position I am condemning in 3) is not one I think anybody here is taking. Rather, it explains part of my viewpoint and where I have arrived in my efforts to deal with bad situations, with compassion.
3) When we take the position that that evil thing we see someone else doing is not something we are capable of – an opinion that history convinces me is not true, then we have accepted the principle that escalates conflict and abandons healing. I am not in any way reducing responsibility of perpetrators for what they do, nor lessening the sense of their terrible impact. I am simply realizing that if I deceive myself into thinking I am fundamentally superior to them, that if I were in their situation, I would be incapable of doing what they have done, I am a part of the problem. (Notice I did not say that we would do what they do – I believe we can always choose. There are, of course, flavors of evil for which I have no stomach. But, for example, I can easily imagine myself getting caught up in the drive to expel the Palestinians if I had just personally experienced Hitler. And I believe that even though I also believe that this expulsion was deeply wrong, with terrible long term consequences.)