This just goes to show you how invented religion is in general. It’s not about what god or scripture says, it’s about how people bring their own stuff and use it as a prism in interpreting scripture.
With all due respect, because I admire your concern for homophobia and hence your efforts, Katie, you are literally trying to square a peg into a round hole because you cannot reconcile Islam with your western sensibility regarding persecution of gays. I’m pretty sure the classical commentators on Islam were mostly in agreement if not unanimous on how to handle gays.
Please quote me someone big, like Bukhari or Muslim or someone of that stature if I’m just totally mistaken. The local friendly neighborhood San Francisco Imam just ain’t gonna cut it.