Thank you for asking a question to which I hope (but doubt) you honestly seek an answer. First of all, you do not know what apartheid is, or you would not ask it in this context. That Israel is not an apartheid country or society (although it is far from the utopia you seek, your utopias exemplified by every other country from Morocco to India and eastward), is demonstrated, since you are fixated on Arabs, by the fact that it is legal for Arabs to own property in “Jewish” neighborhoods, and for Jews to own property in Arab ones, and for either to live in either although few do so; that Arabs and Jews can vote in the same elections for any of the candidates, I think marriages or at least cohabitations are not illegal between Arabs and Jews (straight or queer, by the way), and many other examples can be cited if you really are interested. As for “colonialism:, I’m pretty sure you don’t know what that is, either. But Israel is a proper country, and it is at war with certain other countries, such as Syria and Iraq and Lebanon, and with “entities” including the PA and Hamas and Hezbollah. As such, the borders of the recognized State of Israel have never been agreed by the nations and entities still at war with it (her? I think “medina” is feminine). So, where is the colonialism you decry without understanding, and where is the irredentism you also do not understand but which is an ongoing threat to the genuine and highly successful country of Israel?
If you wish to study apartheid, start by understanding it lots better than the glib tossing of the word. If you wish to study colonialism in the Arab Middle East, a really good place to start might be Rathmell’s published PhD thesis focusing on Syria — shows how utterly messed-up that place and its neighborhood is today and has been since Ottoman days. Then try Rogan’s History of the Arabs, and you will see the same thing, if you keep your BS-detector on for discounting his uncritical Arabist swooning — a total mess, which is always, always, always blamed on somebody else.
So, if you would think about your notions instead of parroting words you do not comprehend, you might really get somewhere. But not on Mondoweiss, a strange place with laws of its own.