3 A.M. Is Also a Metaphor About Marriage

A lot of people are asking why Eliot Spitzer’s wife Silda Wall stood by him at his two agonized speeches at the end of his governorship. Of course I have no idea why she did it. But I think about something my wife’s godfather once told her: "The person you want to marry is the person you want to be talking to at the kitchen table at 3 in the morning."

These days, of course, 3 a.m. has become a big political metaphor, with
Hillary’s ad saying that Obama isn’t ready for that phone call at 3 in the
morning. I like it more as a marriage metaphor. To me it captures the core of a marriage. What would find you sitting at the kitchen table at 3 a.m.? A spiritual crisis, or a long night… It’s about being soul mates. And no, it’s not about 3 a.m. sex.

You can be sure Eliot Spitzer had some 3 a.m. moments in the last week. Who knows, maybe Silda Wall was there then too.

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  1. Goddell says:

    link to nj.com

    It's 3 AM on a Friday Night Special!

    How did those damn Jews get Pedersen to bang the governor and his wife so that they could control NJ foreign policy?

  2. It's 3:00 am and the Israeli Ambassador is calling. Who do you want answering the phone? link to homo-sapien-underground.blogspot.com

  3. neocognitism says:

    Silda may have her own trysts, and she might have known about the escorts already. This is 2008 in liberated Sex-in-the New York City we're talking about. Who knows, maybe she even recommended he look elsewhere for sex or companionship for some reason.

    I just think projecting their relationship into the traditional box is possibly quite inaccurate.

  4. Jim Haygood says:


    I find Silda hotter than "Kristen." Her downside is having been a corporate lawyer. That can do irreparable damage to a woman's head — the corporate left-brain POV carries over into private life. A political career is surely no better. Spitzer's derailment may have been a blessing in disguise for Silda. At least she's under no illusions now.